Relationship issues are a common reason people begin counseling.

Whether your relationship is with a spouse or partner, family member, friend, or colleague, they are incredibly important. And when they go wrong they can create great distress in our lives.

The first step toward having healthy relationships is learning to recognize the difference between unhealthy and healthy behavior.

Healthy relationships bring out the best in you and make you feel good about yourself. A healthy relationship does not mean a perfect relationship, and no one is healthy 100% of the time. Some of the qualities you should strive for in your relationships include honesty, unconditional positive regard, equality and mutuality, independence and interdependence, kindness, responsibility, and fun.

Red flags of unhealthy relationships include possessiveness, judgment, isolation, manipulation, sabotage, belittling, betrayal, emotional or physical abuse, and deflecting responsibility.

It is not uncommon for grief and loss to be associated with relationships. For example, take a child who lost a parent by death or if the parent was alive, but was emotionally unavailable. Or consider the child who was adopted and wonders why her birth mother gave her away. In these situations, when the child grows into adulthood, she may grieve and feel a sense of abandonment and may also experience depression, anxiety, somatic complaints, and lower self-esteem.

As your therapist, I will help you develop the essential qualities of healthy relationships and improve your communication, boundaries, respect, trust and empathy. I can walk you through the delicate and complicated nature of your relationships.

If you feel like any of these symptoms apply to you, reach out to us to request a free phone consultation.